ASK Amile: Sex Only On the Weekend?

My guy and I have great sex, but he only wants it on the weekend. Every other night, he'd rather just hang out and watch TV. He says he gets stressed during the week, which I can understand. But is there anything that I can do to change that?
                                                             -Frustrated San Diego,CA

Hey, I think you should be thankful that you're having great sex in the first place, even if it's on a weekend-only basis. Trust me, that's way better than horrible sex every damn day! Your guy's reasons are justified too. Some people have a hard time compartmentalizing — so if his workday was tough, he may not be able to shut it out when he gets home. I've been there myself with my girlfriend after I get home from work. (Yes the adult industry can have some bad days on set.)



But you want to know if there's any way to get some fuck-action during the week. One solution: Seduce him in the morning, before the workday and his worries begin. Guys generally love sex in the a.m., but you'll need to make it a quickie or else he'll stress about being late to his job (unless you set the alarm early). If you want to have sex after hours, another good window of opportunity is just before dinner. This way, he has time to check the mail and chill when he gets home, but he hasn't yet entered the impenetrable food/beer/TV–coma zone. Make "DADDY" feel like a "KING".


You could also just try to snuff out the source of his problems. Since you know that work anxiety is killing his libido, help eliminate his stress. Turn the bedroom into a minispa, with aromatherapy candles, mellow music, and lots of back rubs. Once he's physically relaxed, his mind should follow suit...and that's when you swoop in to get your prime-time pleasure on.


Hope this helps!
 
 

 
Happy Endings Everyone!
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